看看这个孩子今天给妈妈的信

[Lilyamao]

她在医院里再次自杀

Dear mum and dad,
I love you so much and I wish you all the best.You have done so much for me and I cannot thank you enough. You stuck by me during everything, you sacrificed so much. You always believed in me and tried everything to help. I really sorry for putting you through this and I want you to know that none of this is your fault. Please don’t worry about me know that I’m in a better place now. I hope you can use the care and devotion you showed me to raise XXX， he deserves all the love in the world.
Again, I love you and thank you.
XXX

[Lilyamao]

我这两天跟闺蜜疯狂聊天后

我得出的结论是， you offer too much love too much attention, just way too much!

她请钟点工做家务、请家庭教师带老二、她把所有的时间放在女儿上、老公一下班也是围着女儿

还有一个星期不断的各种therapist, too much, 她觉得活着就是拖累、让爸妈没有生活，让弟弟没有时间得到妈妈的关注。

[Lilyamao]

这孩子的英文不咋滴，没读多少有文采的小说。

遗书里你要啥文采啊、我刚和她妈分析了这一篇，再次验证了我的观点

给予了太多太多的爱和关注、这个孩子被爱压死了，她的自杀动机就是我死了，我爸妈可以重新过日子

我闺蜜愿意去尝试我和她说的新方法

把重心转移到自己身上、不再集中在孩子上

[Lilyamao]

我就不明白这孩子最近为啥一次次自杀

闺蜜说她给儿子在上海找好了国际学校和家庭教师，打算把儿子送回上海，她自己不分心地陪伴，估计女儿自杀的直接动机就是不想拖累家人、不想送走弟弟

可怜的孩子

[Lilyamao]

你不懂

因为你没有经历过

遗书里你要啥文采啊、我刚和她妈分析了这一篇，再次验证了我的观点

给予了太多太多的爱和关注、这个孩子被爱压死了，她的自杀动机就是我死了，我爸妈可以重新过日子

我闺蜜愿意去尝试我和她说的新方法

把重心转移到自己身上、不再集中在孩子上

你们有没有区分什么是爱，什么是控制？死都要死了，还挂着她爸妈？能挂着爸妈的人不会死。我从这篇chinglish里读出来为他人着想，被教育的舍己。我没读出这个孩子是被爱压死了。

我要么不说话，要么就说心里话。

砸场子最可恨。

大春，请把我全版封禁。

[Lilyamao]

没有、是她女儿的短信的copy

但他们说英式英语，British and American English 有些小区别的

她在医院里再次自杀

Dear mum and dad,
I love you so much and I wish you all the best.You have done so much for me and I cannot thank you enough. You stuck by me during everything, you sacrificed so much. You always believed in me and tried everything to help. I really sorry for putting you through this and I want you to know that none of this is your fault. Please don’t worry about me know that I’m in a better place now. I hope you can use the care and devotion you showed me to raise XXX， he deserves all the love in the world.
Again, I love you and thank you.
XXX

里面的typo是你打错的吧？

[fortyNiner]

Maybe it's time to give her less attention.

[Lilyamao]

我倒是今天感觉松一口气

之前我觉得她女儿是绝症、完全找不到理由，最近一次次自杀

在和闺蜜这几天每天3-4小时的通话过程中、她女儿其实已经多次表达不要这么多therapist, 你们爱我太多、请多关注弟弟，妈妈你可以去跳舞去meditation

而我闺蜜每次都说，妈妈陪着你就很开心，我们一起努力，会好起来的

然后又到处寻医问药，就是注意力全在孩子上

孩子最后负疚感太重太重

[Lilyamao]

Maybe it's time to give her less attention.

应该是的。

医生也是这么说、我闺蜜问，我们家长还有什么可以改的
医生说、当你们这么问的时候，其实你们显露了一种stress , 你们就应该彻底relax

[fortyNiner]

Seems to me that she is abusing the love and attention she gets from her parents. When something becomes too abundant, it becomes cheap, and you cannot appreciate or treasure it anymore.

Maybe it's time to give her less attention.

应该是的。

医生也是这么说、我闺蜜问，我们家长还有什么可以改的
医生说、当你们这么问的时候，其实你们显露了一种stress , 你们就应该彻底relax